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Grief is a traumatic and disruptive experience. We spend most of our lives preparing to live. Most of us do very little towards preparing to die or to deal with death when it occurs for someone for whom we care, especially if that someone is a newly conceived or recently born child. Lack of preparation and understanding of the grieving process can make this traumatic experience worse than it has to be.
For those of faith, this life is said to be preparation for
a greater life to come. We say that the next life will be better and more satisfying. Have you ever wondered why people of faith often grieve so deeply if they really believe their loved one has gone to a better place? Have you personally experienced intense grief over the loss of someone you know is better off and wondered why? Did this uncertainty cause you to question your faith? In the absence of knowledge about the grief process, we most often ask perplexing questions and are frustrated with the lack of or inadequacy of the answers provided by well meaning people around us.
Our natural inclination is to ask, "Why?" Why me? Why my baby? It isn't fair so why did it happen? Dwelling on the “why” questions usually only serves to increase our frustration and despair. There is often no adequate answer available in earthly terms for this theological, philosophical, and practical question. Many well-intended answers are offered by friends as reasons but they always leave some element of the question lingering. It is best to accept the fact that the answers will come for those of faith, but not during this earthly life.
Alexandrasrose.net is not a site with a recipe for fixing the brokenness of our lives. But the resources offered here and on the "Resource" page offer perspective, and more importantly, support.
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